Principles of Coaching
Before we begin, please read this agreement.
This form sets the context in which you will get the outcome you want. It also covers some of the issues of law governing our relationship.
Chrissy Marquardt reserves the right to update this policy as needed.
Last updated: February 18, 2021.
Coaching With Me…
…is a co-created relationship, one that can radically empower you, possibly for the first time in your life.
…is founded on the principle that all people are whole, creative, and resourceful. You do not need to be diagnosed, fixed, or healed because you are not broken.
…is wholehearted and provides safety for you to truly be seen and heard, and ultimately remember that you matter.
…is not a solution but rather a pure creative space where you can explore all possible outcomes and remember that you have a choice. Our primary goal is to move you toward choice.
…puts you back in the driver seat of your life and assumes right responsibility. It reminds you that you are your own domain and always have a choice, the very definition of empowerment.
…is rooted in the belief that all people are valuable and have a purpose. It assumes all people are whole at their core, even if you’re experiencing a fragmented piece of your life in this moment.
…is simply a tool. You will be the one to change your own life with my unwavering belief that not only can you create positive change, in a way, it’s already done.
How I show up as your coach
I am intuitive and use my intuition to help forward the work and your experience.
I reflect back to you as a mirror to yourself and your subconscious mind. I am not a psychic and won’t give you “downloads” that tell you what to do or how. The information I read is nothing you don’t already know. But it is helpful to have these stories brought to the forefront and heard with such clarity.
You are a Whole Person and not Broken
You’ve handled your life up to now and will continue to do so after me. You are a whole person, you are not broken and therefore do not need to be fixed.
I practice my work totally rooted in love.
This includes how I show up, how I approach you, the questions I ask, and how I use my intuitive gifts. If I invite you to continue working with me, I will present the program that I believe in my heart will get you the exact results you’ve asked for and nothing less.
I am here to facilitate change and transformation, and the transformation happens when you show up to do the work.
My role as a coach and as a healer is not to heal you, but to hold space for you while you awaken your inner healer, so that you may begin the process of healing yourself. I will create a safe space for you to feel open and supported; I call this a coaching container. I will also use this container to challenge you in a loving way. You are responsible for your life and what you do with what we uncover.
I am human and also do the work.
I am an open book and will share pieces of my own experiences if I think they will serve you. But I don’t feel it’s serving or safe to bring all of my stuff into your session because you aren’t here to take care of me. This can appear as though I’ve got it all figured out – I don’t. I practice what I preach and am, like everyone, a work in progress. I work with coaches and spiritual mentors as well as journal, meditate, and reflect on my own fears and desires just like you.
My Principles of Coaching
There is no failure, only feedback.
Failure is a negative label for useful results and undesired outcomes that put an end to something. Failure defines and labels you based on past behaviors that led to an undesirable outcome, instead of your future potential. Feedback is a positive label that I use for useful results. Feedback calibrates on your future potential, incorporates learning to try again AND improves your way towards your desired outcome.
There is no judgment, only observation, and reflections.
As your coach, I create a container of safety and coach from a place of non-judgment. I act as an internal mirror to your subconscious mind, for the purpose of observation and reflection.
As the client, you are 100% responsible for your experience and your transformation.
As your coach, I am responsible for creating and maintaining a space of safety and exploration. I am here as a facilitator of change and transformation. As my client, you are 100% responsible for how you show up, your process, and your transformation through choice. You are in charge of your mind, and therefore your results. Being responsible for our minds and our own processes means that we don’t blame external circumstances for our undesired results. When we take full responsibility for ourselves and our lives, we create more options and therefore more choices that move you towards your desired outcomes.
You are not your behaviors
We are all humans and make mistakes. You are the DOER of the behavior, but your behavior itself does not DEFINE you. As your coach, my intent is to coach the highest purpose of your behavior and coach the beliefs and stories that lead to your behavior. When you change your stories and beliefs, your behavior changes. My intention is to coach you out of the “box” that is your behavior so you can be empowered to make new choices that lead you to your desired outcomes.